All toddlers get angry and frustrated and that early childhood is a really important time for learning what to do with those very intense emotions. So, how exactly do you teach a toddler what to do with intense emotions?
Here are the tips:
1. Remember that the goal is not for children to not have any strong feelings.
Feelings are normal and healthy — the trick is learning what to do with those feelings.
2. Provide a consistent routine.
Always let kids know when there is going to be a change in plans.
3. Read books about feelings during times when your kids are calm.
4. Play a game.
You can make a game out of making all of the “feeling faces” together (sad, mad, happy, scared, surprised, etc.) and then pretend to do things to feel better —“Oh, you’re showing me a sad face, I’m going to give you a big hug, maybe then you’ll feel better!”
5. Model safe and healthy ways of managing feelings.
So, next time you lose your keys you can say, “Oh man, Mommy lost her keys again! I’m getting mad — I better take three deep breaths to calm down … will you help me take three deep breaths?”
6. When a child gets mad there are important things you can do in the moment.
Talking a ton isn’t really going to help. Getting on your child’s level using a few repeat statements in a low, clear voice can be helpful. “You’re mad. Mommy said no, but I can help you feel better.” Modeling taking some deep breaths and offering some comfort can be helpful.
7. Take a time in.
Taking a “time in” with kids rather than directing kids to take a time out — a time in means you sit with your child while they are upset and use your calm self to help them regulate.
8. Re-direct attention.
After the anger storm has passed (and usually these things pass very quickly) offering a toy or new distraction can help.
9. Talk things through.
When your child is calm. It’s also a good time to talk through what happened that made them so mad and what helped them calm down.
Rebecca. 9 Ways to Help Your Toddler Work Through Anger. Babble Online. [cited. No Date]; [1 screen]. Available at URL: https://www.babble.com/toddler/9-ways-to-help-your-toddler-work-through-anger/